Tuesday

Are You a Triangle or Rectangle or Circle?

Originally Posted: Perfectly Shaped Life - September 2007

No matter what beautiful size we are, we all tend to fit into one of five basic body shapes: Circle, Triangle, Inverted Triangle, Rectangle and Hourglass.

These are just guidelines, and other sites may differ radically. One site may say there are two basic types - another may claim four - and yet another may claim seven.

Let's use five shapes, since it's a nice prime number, fits with the number of fingers on one hand, and is easy to remember and relate to fashion in general.

Now let's talk about each one, shall we?


The Circle

Some people refer to this body shape as apple shape or oval shape in some fashion references, although I find that term a bit silly unless you have a stem sprouting from your neck.

Shoulders and hips are narrow compared to the waist.

Those of us with circle body shapes need to define our non-existent waists and use V-necklines to lengthen our necks and accentuate our shoulders. Sleeveless tops give the illusion of more shoulder than we truly possess. We need interesting hemlines to give that leggy look (and turn attention away from the waist). We need to avoid hemlines that cut us off too far below the knee and turn us into popsicles.




The Triangle


Some people refer to this body shape as cone shape in some fashion references.

Shoulders are narrow compared to the hips.

Those of us who are triangle shaped need to avoid calling attention to the hip area by using bright colors near the shoulders - scarves, eye-catching necklaces, necklines and collars of interest. Strive for lines that bring the eye upward. Avoid strong waistline definitions. Bring attention to the areas that are needing it, and away from areas that already have too much of it.




The Inverted Triangle



This body shape is also known as pear shape in some fashion references.

Shoulders are wide compared to the hips.

Those of us who are inverted triangle shape need to draw attention away from our nice wide shoulders and down toward waist and hips. Tunic style jackets with jewel collars (no huge lapels), long lean lines that make us look tall, smooth unbroken lines from shoulder to knee. Avoid breaking up those unbroken lines with belts, horizontal visual breakpoints, prominent waistbands. Avoid fashion traps like shoulder pads - no need to accentuate that positive broad shoulder more than necessary! Bring attention down to the narrow end of that inverted triangle with flair.




The Rectangle


This body shape is also known as the box shape in some fashion references.

Shoulders and hips are nearly equal, and there is little or no waist definition.

Those of us with rectangle body shapes face some interesting challenges, but we can do a lot by focusing on long lean looks, faux belts (or even real ones), and lovely pointed toes on our shoes. Bright scarves, big chunky necklaces, heavy brooches that bring the eye up to your smile. Find your color and stick with it from neck to knee. Use prints cleverly to create the illusion of indentation and shape at the waistline, with colored side panels, faux vertical seams and tucks, shirring at the midriff, diagonal print panels.




The Hourglass


This body shape is also known as the proportioned shape in some fashion references.

Shoulders and hips are nearly equal, while waist is narrower.

Those of us with hourglass shapes can wear just about anything with great success (and those of us without hourglass shapes will just have to rein in our green-eyed envy demons and dress ourselves beautifully anyway). Aim for apparel that brings the eye to the waist - big bold belts, tightly tailored shirtwaist dresses.

Not surprisingly, a lot of off-the-shelf apparel is designed for, and modeled by, hourglass-shaped people. This is a great sales ploy, as a catalog full of nice hourglass-shaped models portrays garments in a very positive note. Unfortunately for many of us, this nice hourglass-shaped positive turns into a negative in the dressing room.




Bottom Line

Know your body shape and be comfortable. Keep the tips in mind when looking at your wardrobe, selecting new apparel and accessories, and dressing for absolute success. In future posts, we'll use these icons to guide your attention toward an item or concept that works well for your own body shape.



Remember our Mantra

We're curvaceous, audacious, bold, beautiful, voluptuous, sensuously shapely, and we dress to show off our beautiful selves! We live in our perfectly shaped world, comfortably fashion forward and proud of it. We celebrate ourselves and our world.

Monday

What's in YOUR Closet

Originally Posted: Perfectly Shaped Life - September 2007

I love Tim Gunn. Wait. That came out wrong. I am a huge (pardon the pun) Tim Gunn fan and have fallen in love with his new show Tim Gunn's Guide to Style for several reasons - the biggest one of which is that he had the foresight to feature a right-size woman as one of his first makeover 'victims.'

JeAnne had recently lost a significant amount of weight, and the Before and After pictures were a clear tribute to her persistence and strength of spirit in her weight-loss endeavor. The show where she is featured is described as "Tim and Veronica give the fashion skinny to a style-impaired woman who recently lost a lot of weight. Included: fitting tips."


Removing my Stress from my Closet

As my weight climbed and my inability to exercise properly took its toll on my old skinny self, I found myself hoarding garments of my past, reciting the reassuring phrase to myself: I'll fit back into these in a few months.

The few months became a few years, then over a decade, and believe me - I was no closer to getting back into those size 5 neon blue lycra stretch pencil-thin pants than they were getting any closer to being back in style. They kept getting pushed further toward the back in the closet, supplanted by slacks I could actually get my legs into.

Keeping those old skinny-years memorabilia in the closet was doing nothing more than causing stress which caused more eating which caused more weight which caused more stress. Oh, and eating up closet space.

The solution came in the form of catastrophe. Over the Christmas holidays, a fire swept through a neighbor's house, leaving the family of five homeless, with nothing but the clothes on their backs. Everyone living nearby scrambled at once, gathering donations, coats, furniture, pots and pans, kitchen appliances, children's toys, and of course clothes.

No, the neon pants didn't go into the pile headed for the burned-out neighbors... I sent practical and usable items. But the search for the usable items brought some sanity to the closet, and the pants did go into the charity bin, where they should have gone back in the decade when disco first took a nose-dive. They were accompanied by every single bit of clothing under size 16 (except for a silly collection of commemorative tank top tees from chili cookoffs of long ago. They don't take up much space at all, now that I've discovered Space Bags).

The Second Reason I Love Tim Gunn

Several minutes into the show's purposeful agony of cleansing a closet (four stacks - Keep, Mend, Donate, Ditch - not his exact labels, but you get the drift), Tim and Veronica present their fashion victim with a list of Ten Basic Wardrobe Essentials and begin to steer the Keep choices in the direction of that list's contents. Watch an episode (tape it!) and copy down that list if you possibly can. It's gold. Since my own closet is notorious for its tendency to suffer from acute time warp, I've been trying to copy it so I can post it on the inside of my closet door.

Here's what I have on the list so far - anyone have the rest?

* classic white shirt
* classic dress pants
* cashmere sweater
* basic black dress
* trench coat
* properly fit jeans
* proper length skirt
* a blazer that works with your shape
* a day dress
* sweat suit alternative
* a 'fancy night out' dress


What's in YOUR Closet?

If you're anything like me (or like I was before the neighbors' fire), your closet may be storing a collection of memories instead of a collection of wearable items. I'm not proposing that you run right out and donate everything you own to the charity bin, or ditch it all and buy everything new.

But, if you do decide to tackle an out-of-fashion/fit/function exorcism on your closet space, it's important to give yourself permission to ditch things. Try this:

Start at the far darkest oldest end of your closet - you know, that place where blouses and skirts migrate if they haven't been worn for awhile and may never get worn again.

Take out ONE item and make ONE decision. Put it into one of four stacks:
* Keep
* Mend
* Donate
* Ditch

... you can always change your mind later.

Repeat until you've gone through your entire closet or you've lost the will to carry on.

Take a break and recharge your batteries - have some tea or a shot of decaf of your choice. (I don't recommend regular coffee at a time like this - you've got enough stress without having to handle caffeine jitters on top of it!)

THEN sort the Keep stack into a Fits Now pile and a Used to Fit pile. Put the Used to Fit pile into the Donate stack.

Repeat with the Mend stack. Trim your closet's contents down to items that you will actually wear.

Bundle up the Donate stack and go put it in the front seat of your car, drive to the charity of your choice that has a donations bin, and heave it in. Now, before it creeps back onto hangers and into the closet of its own volition.

Bundle up the Ditch stack and take it with you, and dump it into a convenient dumpster as far away from your house as possible. Put some distance between you and that bag, so it doesn't find its way home.

Seems a bit daunting? Just remember it doesn't have to be done all at once, or done at all! But if your closet is belaboring you with stress, fight back!

Sounds too simple to work? It isn't simple - it may be a very difficult and emotional encounter. Power through it, though, if you're going to do it. Call on a friend. Make an afternoon of it. Try stuff on and make your decisions. Tomorrow you can go tackle her closet.

But Most Important of All

Remember our mantra that you, my right-size friend, should repeat every day:

We're curvaceous, audacious, bold, beautiful, voluptuous, sensuously shapely, and we dress to show off our beautiful selves! We live in our perfectly shaped world, comfortably fashion forward and proud of it. We celebrate ourselves and our world.

The Real Skinny About Plus Size Models

Originally Posted: Perfectly Shaped Life - September 2007

Even at my most slender size five'ness, it was difficult to view the media's portrayal of the Ultimate Female Form as an attainable goal (since I'm 5'4" or so). If we are to believe print and television, videos and movies, the ideal woman seems to be about 5'10" and weighs in just under 115 pounds after a decent meal.


So, What is a Plus-Size Model?

A plus-size model is the term applied to a woman larger than a standard U.S. size 8 who models clothing for consumers wearing a dress size 14 in North American sizing. (Source: Wikipedia) Probably the most recognizable plus-size model is Melissa Aronson (you know her as Emme), at 5'11, who wears a size 16. The plus-size label has been applied (somewhat unfairly in some cases) to other actively working models and stars. One of my absolute favorites is Dana Owens (Queen Latifah), the hallmark face of CoverGirl Cosmetics and a completely unapologetic right-size person.

In the last few years, more apparel companies are opening the doors to plus-size product lines, catalogs and online offerings, and are beginning to present wardrobe and apparel on models that are more reflective of what many more of us look like. There is progress, more every day, and there will continue to be progress as long as apparel companies keep recognizing that we are not all Kate Moss hopefuls.

Could I Be a Plus-Size Model?

Wilhelmina Agency began hosting an annual search for plus-size models in the 1990s. More information can be found at the Wilhelmina Agency website. Some agencies devote specific departments to plus-size model scouting and promotion, like Model Scouts.

But for the straight scoop, I'd say listen to the Tyra Banks Show blog entry entitled What is a Plus-Size Model. I've noticed that on America's Next Top Model, she has referred to several of the candidates as "plus size model possibilities," and for the most part those candidates have seemed to be not much more than a bit bustier than the "regular girls" on the show.

Give and Get Peer Support

What really captivates me about Tyra Banks' blog are the comments. (The posting is dated November 2006, but the latest comment is from April 2007 - good staying power for a blog entry!) So many responses ask for more information, describing their own right-size lives and circumstances. So many hold out hope for a response, yet there are some comments that speak of discouragement and loss of hope.

All the more reason for us right-size sisters to encourage each other to affirm our body image, be comfortable in our own skin and size, seek safe weight loss solutions if that is what we choose to do, and dress like we own the world we're in.

Remember Our Mantra

We're curvaceous, audacious, bold, beautiful, voluptuous, sensuously shapely, and we dress to show off our beautiful selves! We live in our perfectly shaped world, comfortably fashion forward and proud of it. We celebrate ourselves and our world.

Saturday

5 Secrets to Online Shopping Happiness

Originally posted: Perfectly Shaped Life - November 2007

If you view online shopping in the same way you tackle on-the-ground shopping, you may have a lot of fun but you may also find you're not getting the complete value for your dollar that you deserve. Try these simple twists in thinking:


Make sure that shipping costs are a key factor in your buying decision. In fact, look first for free shipping offers, flat rate shipping offers, super saver shipping and similar offers. Some of these offers are fleeting, with specific expiration dates, but others are company policy or long term (like Amazon's Super Saver Shipping).


When you're starting out with online shopping, focus on heritage items, wardrobe staples and basics. Just like shopping in "real" stores, you'll find you do your best online shopping if you make a list before you start. The big difference is... your online shopping list includes checking for the best possible shipping savings.


Make your purchase decisions based on more than just price. Look for materials that fit your lifestyle - if you are on the go or hate to iron, pick materials that aren't going to require tons of time invested in upkeep. If you travel extensively, search for items that will pack easily and shake off wrinkles on arrival or after a few hours of hanging. Shop with store sites that give you the information on materials, sizing, fabric and item care to support a buying decision.


Shop seriously for discount, clearance and seasonal sale offers, but don't let the presence of a sale drive your purchase decision. A neon pink dress that you might wear once is no bargain if you won't enjoy wearing it whenever you want, even if it is half price.


Remain aware that it takes time for items to arrive, depending on the shipping method you've selected, the distance from the seller's company and your location. This may seem like an obvious thing to point out, but I've found myself checking the front porch way sooner than I should, even though I know very well that the package is going to arrive right on time.



Great advice, eh? And now here's some ammunition to get you started: free, reduced cost, and flat rate shipping offers (and their expiration dates, if any). I'll be adding more in future posts as I find them.

Old Navy: Enjoy Old Navy's Famous $5 Shipping! Every order, one great rate.

Blair.com: $1.99 Flat Rate Shipping (Exp. 9/30/07)

Pacific Sunwear: $5 Flat Fee Shipping or FREE when you spend $75

Forzieri.com: Free Shipping on all orders of $98 or more Enter coupon code: 675E6A - Expires February 1st 2008

Kiyonna.com: Free Ground Shipping on Domestic Orders over $150

Friday

Measuring for Plus Size Shopping

Originally Posted: Perfectly Shaped Life - September 2007

I am asking stores for permission to post their sizing charts here. In the meantime, while I wait for their responses, here's some general guidelines for measuring, to get you started.


How to Measure Your Body


Bust
Wrap around the fullest part of your bust. Let your arms rest at your sides in a relaxed position.

Waist
First tie a string around your waist. Bend side to side. This is your natural waistline. Wrap the tape measure around your waist. Make sure not to pull too tight.

Low Hip
With your feet together, wrap the tape measure around your hips at your fullest point.

Inseams
Measure from ankle bone to crotch along inside of leg. Petite = 28" Inseam (women under 5'4") Average = 30" Inseam (women 5'4" - 5'7") Tall = 33" (women 5'7" and taller)

Swimsuits
Use your largest size measurements to order. For example, if you have size 1X bust and size 2X hips, order a size 2X. If there is a difference of two sizes (3X bust and 1X hips) we recommend that you order from our separates collection. You can pick the size that is closest for your top and bottom.

Chloroban Swimsuits have a unique fit. They don't contain spandex, so they last much longer in the chlorine pool. These unique 100% polyester swimsuits don't stretch as much as nylon / spandex suits do. Make sure to follow the size chart provided. If your body measurements are in between sizes, you may be more comfortable in the larger size.

How to Fit a Bra
While wearing a bra, measure above the bust keeping the tape under your arms and around your shoulder blades. This is your band size. For bust size, measure the fullest part of your bust. Subtract the band measurement from the bust measurement. A difference of 3" is a C cup, 4" is a D cup, 5" is a DD/E cup, 6" is a F cup, 7" is a G cup.

(Measurement methods courtesy of Junonia.com)

Overcoming Plus Size Online Shopping Perils and Pitfalls

Originally Posted: Perfectly Shaped Life - September 2007

(Much of this advice can be applied to online shopping in general, but I'm going to focus on our goal of finding and listing the best plus size shopping locations.)

In a perfect life, shopping online would be as simple as opening a browser window that goes directly to the item you want, clicking on the [[I WANT THIS]] button, entering some payment data, and pushing Go.

Unfortunately, a perfect life doesn't exist (yet), so we have to do a great deal more work that those four steps. Where do we start?


Time, Time and More Time

One of the biggest complaints I've heard about online shopping is that it takes too much time. Many of us start with a search engine like Google, search for what we want, scan down a few entries, click on what looks interesting, surf the site and not find what we want, go back and find another site, surf that site and not find what we want, find a third site, go back to Google, refine our search, and repeat until we either find what we're looking for or give up and drive to a store, or give up and settle for something close, or give up entirely and decide we don't really need the item THAT bad.

It often boils down to a matter of time. Do you have the time to search, surf, plow through dozens of websites that may or may not have what you want? If you're like most of us, the answer to that is a resounding 'NO.'

Build a Solid List of Shopping Sites

You may have a set of favorite plus size shopping sites, and that's great! We'd love to hear from you and know which ones you prefer, so we can add them to our directory of shops. Do you have time to visit them once a day or once a week to watch for sales, special offers, free shipping deals, seasonal clearances? If not, don't worry - we do, and will.

We're building a list of recommended stores, based on our own experience and feedback from our readers, and will keep that list updated on this site. You can help! Let us know where you have shopped with success, so we can add to this list!

Spread the Word

Many of the places we shop are well known, like Old Navy and their new Women's Plus Online Exclusives, and Junonia.

But have you heard about Bigger Bras, which offers fuller bras and lingerie with styles by Playtex, Vanity Fair, Tatiana and more? Did you know that Kiyonna.com offers a full line of Spanx Body Shapers in the plus sizes we need?

Know the Right Size is the Right Size

Almost every shop is different, just like brick-and-mortar stores (our term for those places down the road where you walk in and shop off of racks). Before you shop online, arm yourself with a good tape measure and pad of paper, and take reliable measurements - bust, waist, hips, inseam - we'll give you some charts to use. Never assume that a 2X jacket available on one site is going to fit just like a size 2X jacket from another site. Check each shop's size charts, just to make sure.

Know the Return Policy in Advance

Some online stores have very forgiving return policies, but a few of them are tougher than Fort Knox. Some stores will let you return items after they've been removed from packaging, tried on and worn, and some restrict the type of item that can be returned at all. Usually, for health code reasons, swimsuits and lingerie carry the strictest policies. Be sure to read the policies before placing an order the first time with a new store.

Know the Security and Privacy in Advance

You have rights as a consumer. Any store site that wants to take your credit card information or sell things to you online needs to have a clearly written Privacy Statement. This statement should provide you with their policies about email, credit card security, data security, personal information privacy and contact information.

These Privacy Statements may be labeled with different names, like Security, Our Commitment to Your Privacy, Security and Privacy, Service and Security, etc. Terms and Conditions of Use may also contain privacy statements, but many firms separate the two to keep them easier to find and read. But no matter what they're called, they are that firm's commitment to protecting your privacy and rights. Read them carefully. If you disagree with their approach, don't shop with them.

Protect Your Good Credit

Look for Verisign icons, Better Business Bureau, Security Metrics. You may see TrustE and HackerSafe icons as well, services used to give assurance of a site's reliability and integrity.

Shopping cart pages may or may not be provided through secure webpages, depending on the approach the store has taken. However, any place that asks for financial information like a credit card number must be secure pages. Make sure the website page's address starts with https:// (normal pages are http://) before you enter any credit card information.

Let Us Know - Good or Bad

If you find a wonderful place to shop, let us know. Leave a comment, so we can add the store to our list of recommended stores.

If you find a place that doesn't treat you right, let us know that as well. I want to make sure that our list of recommended stores is going to be the best possible shopping experience for all of us!

Bottom Line

Shopping for plus size clothing online doesn't have to be a painful experience. My goal is to help take out the painful parts, find and provide the best places to shop, gather up handy information and serve it up here in an easy-to-retrieve manner, and cheer you on as you shop and find the fantastic right-sized apparel that helps your own special personality shine through.

Thursday

No More Settling for Ugly Clothes

Originally Posted: Perfectly Shaped Life - September 2007

The Womens Clothing Industry is Starting to Wake Up to the Facts


* Fact: Womens Plus Size apparel has been in need of a major overhaul for decades.
* Fact: 43% of the retail apparel market is womens plus size apparel.
* Fact: Women want clothes that fit and flatter, in all sizes, and especially in sizes 16 to 30.
* Fact: Women of our size and shape want fashion forward, current styling, youthful, playful, serious, and business-like.
* Fact: In other words, WE WANT CHOICES.

News Flash: Apparel Retailers are Missing the Message


Reed-thin models may look sharp sashaying down a runway to the murmured accolades of the fashion world. A small fraction of women may actually be able to wear the skinniest jeans, the lowest-riding bikinis, the thongs that leave absolutely nothing to the imagination. And that fraction is shrinking every month (pardon the pun).

There's an even larger fraction of us American women who are NOT considered slender, skinny, toothpick, Twiggy, or even small. Well over 65 percent of American adults are overweight by health industry standards, and over 30 percent of them are considered obese.

Some retailers are holding back, perhaps thinking that their female adult demographic is 5'10", weighs 112 pounds, and fits into their Junior Petite collections. Either that or we're all are going to wake up one morning and find we've dropped 10-20 dress sizes. Not likely.

The Good News for Us Right-Sized Ladies


Some retailers are getting wise to the fact that there really is a market for plus size womens apparel and have started to provide reasonable fashion lines in reasonable sizes, as they become aware that we, too, wear clothes.

My hat is off to Old Navy for their Women's Plus Online Exclusives, a rapidly expanding and fashionable line of offerings for both younger women and for us mature types.

Why am I writing this blog?


I am a former skinny person. I battled my way down from a heavy childhood to a very slender adulthood, and managed to keep the weight off for well over 20 years.

However, those days are long gone, and now I'm one of those 65 percent and maybe even in the 30 percent. My skinny self has succumbed to failed diets, and the restrictions of a back injury, chronic pain, and DVT have cramped my previously active lifestyle. Add menopause on top of that, and my old slender size 5 body is ancient history. I accept this (after a long bit of soul-searching and closet-cleaning).

I want clothes that I can WEAR. I want shirts that fit. I want slacks that work. I want dresses that don't scream out loud just because someone thinks that overweight women really truly do want to wear neon green Hawaiian muumuu's with 6-inch hot pink hibiscus print. I want waistbands that don't make me look like a queen-sized mattress with a string tied around the middle.

Like many not-so-petite people, I hate the thought of spending hours trying on clothes in retail establishments, malls, department stores, and fashion shops. I can read size charts and a tape measure perfectly well in the privacy of my own home, so I have had great luck ordering my wardrobe online.

I'm sure that the right-size apparel that we both want and need is out there, scattered around the Internet universe. I'm going to find them and bring the knowledge here, for all of us.

Wish me luck, and stay tuned, and let's go Shopping!